Ah, but in the movies he erased Lois' memory of his secret, also "for her own good"--which I *also* found infuriating.

I agree with you, though, that his intentions were good. TW did an excellent job with that scene in the fortress, saying goodbye to Chloe. Obviously he thinks he's doing the right thing. I just hope you're right that it's part of a cycle of learning for him.