public comments sought on gender-affirming care
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thisfinecrewThe FTC is inviting public comment about gender-affirming care for minors, and alleged deception by providers. They are blatantly looking for attacks on gender-affirming care, but every unique comment posted may slow down whatever crap they're planning here.
Personalizing these comments is good, even if it's just "I'm writing from Boston."
I'm posting at the request ofminoanmiss. If anyone has a good script or talking points, I'd be delighted to add them to this post.
Personalizing these comments is good, even if it's just "I'm writing from Boston."
I'm posting at the request of
minoanmiss. If anyone has a good script or talking points, I'd be delighted to add them to this post.Demons & Demonic Glow-ups (picspam)
Jul. 30th, 2025 03:38 pmdancing_serpent posting in c_entThis July is another month with a bonus Wednesday, which I only really noticed after I had already posted the "Did You Make A Thing" entry. I'm a bit annoyed at myself for missing this, but hey - we'll do our picspam today instead.
So, for this one I chose the topic Demons & Demonic Glow-ups. All kinds of characters are welcome for this topic - demons or just members of the so-called demonic sects, members of the so-called righteous sects who got a demonic glow-up during the course of their dramas, or the ones who just lurk undercover. Show me the ones you love, or the ones you love to hate, I'm looking forward to your pic(k)s. *g*
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Just post your pics/GIFs out of context. Mentioning actor/character/drama is perfectly fine, but if you want to elaborate or discuss in the comments, please use one of the codes to hide potential spoilers.
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So, for this one I chose the topic Demons & Demonic Glow-ups. All kinds of characters are welcome for this topic - demons or just members of the so-called demonic sects, members of the so-called righteous sects who got a demonic glow-up during the course of their dramas, or the ones who just lurk undercover. Show me the ones you love, or the ones you love to hate, I'm looking forward to your pic(k)s. *g*
Just post your pics/GIFs out of context. Mentioning actor/character/drama is perfectly fine, but if you want to elaborate or discuss in the comments, please use one of the codes to hide potential spoilers.
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Da-ge Lives prompt meme
Jul. 30th, 2025 08:31 amroseclaw posting in theuntamed_mdzs
This is a prompt fest for Da-ge's birthday, January 1. In honor of that, he should live. So share all your prompts for Da-ge living.
FAQ:
1. Any and all types of fic are allowed given that they are tagged and rated properly (AND Nie Mingjue lives).
2. Nie Mingjue must be the main character. He does not need to be the POV character.
3. Fierce corpses count if they're sentient.
4. Art and fic are allowed.
Rules:
1. Nie Mingjue survives.
2. Art and fic are allowed.
3. No AI.
4. No character bashing.
5. All works are due by Dec 31, 2025 and will be revealed on Jan 1, 2026.
Two letters with easy, easy answers
Jul. 30th, 2025 08:28 amconuly posting in agonyaunt1. Dear Care and Feeding,
My husband “Chad” and I have a 4-year-old son, “Lane.” Recently for his birthday, my parents gifted him a set of Winnie-the-Pooh books. It’s been a tradition in my family for the last three generations for kids to read these books. But my husband won’t let my son have them.
He says doesn’t want Lane to read them because he insists that Winnie-the-Pooh is for girls. I’ve never heard anything so stupid! How can I make him understand that Pooh is a character that has been beloved by both boys and girls alike for nearly a century now?
—Much Ado About Pooh
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2. Dear Care and Feeding,
My wife “Carla” and I have a 3-year-old son, “Andy.” Andy became a big brother last month when we had our daughter, “Isabelle.” Andy had been reliably potty-trained for four months before Isabelle was born, but within days of bringing Isabelle home from the hospital, Andy began having accidents. Carla’s solution has been to put him back in pull-ups. I don’t think allowing him to regress like this is a wise idea. She says to let him do it for the time being if it makes him feel better. It seems to me that taking a firm approach (making him go back to using the toilet or face punishment) would be in his best interest. Who is right?
—We’re Not Going Backward
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My husband “Chad” and I have a 4-year-old son, “Lane.” Recently for his birthday, my parents gifted him a set of Winnie-the-Pooh books. It’s been a tradition in my family for the last three generations for kids to read these books. But my husband won’t let my son have them.
He says doesn’t want Lane to read them because he insists that Winnie-the-Pooh is for girls. I’ve never heard anything so stupid! How can I make him understand that Pooh is a character that has been beloved by both boys and girls alike for nearly a century now?
—Much Ado About Pooh
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2. Dear Care and Feeding,
My wife “Carla” and I have a 3-year-old son, “Andy.” Andy became a big brother last month when we had our daughter, “Isabelle.” Andy had been reliably potty-trained for four months before Isabelle was born, but within days of bringing Isabelle home from the hospital, Andy began having accidents. Carla’s solution has been to put him back in pull-ups. I don’t think allowing him to regress like this is a wise idea. She says to let him do it for the time being if it makes him feel better. It seems to me that taking a firm approach (making him go back to using the toilet or face punishment) would be in his best interest. Who is right?
—We’re Not Going Backward
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Reality Show Rec List
Jul. 29th, 2025 04:14 pmforestofglory posting in c_entI just posted a a rec list of chill Chinese reality shows that I though people here might be interested in.
New Vid: Just To Ask A Dance | The Old Guard movies
Jul. 27th, 2025 07:59 pmaurumcalendula posting in viddingTitle: Just To Ask A Dance
Fandom: The Old Guard & The Old Guard 2
Music: Just To Ask A Dance by Heartworms
Summary: 'think I'll die/ when you die, I'll die, a mutual sigh/ with your hand in mine'
Notes: Premiered at DC-Slash 2025!
Warnings: quick zooms in the source, flickering lights, blood, violence
AO3 | bsky | DW | tumblr | YouTube
Fandom: The Old Guard & The Old Guard 2
Music: Just To Ask A Dance by Heartworms
Summary: 'think I'll die/ when you die, I'll die, a mutual sigh/ with your hand in mine'
Notes: Premiered at DC-Slash 2025!
Warnings: quick zooms in the source, flickering lights, blood, violence
AO3 | bsky | DW | tumblr | YouTube
Casefic Exchange - Post-deadline Pinch Hit
Jul. 27th, 2025 04:41 pmxmarksthespotwhereistand posting in nirvana_in_fireCasefic Exchange is an exchange where the gift must feature a case that is investigated and eventually solved.
The pinch hit is due on Friday 8 August at 11:59pm Eastern time.
Pinch hits must meet the minimum assignment requirements of a completed work of a minimum of 3,000 words for fanfiction, a minimum of 10 panels for a comic, or a recording of a completed fic of 3,000 words minimum with "casefic" as one of its tags. Works must include a fandom, character/ship and be of a medium that the recipient has requested.
The requested mediums and characters/relationships are as follows.
Mediums: Medium - Comic, Medium - Fanfic, Medium - Podfic
Relationships:
Lin Shu | Mei Changsu | Su Zhe/Xiao Jingyan (琅琊榜 | Nirvana in Fire (TV))
Lin Shu | Mei Changsu | Su Zhe & Mu Nihuang & Xiao Jingyan (琅琊榜 | Nirvana in Fire (TV))
Lie Zhanying/Xiao Jingyan (琅琊榜 | Nirvana in Fire (TV))
Lin Chen/Xiao Jingyan (琅琊榜 | Nirvana in Fire (TV))
Lie Zhanying & Xiao Jingyan (琅琊榜 | Nirvana in Fire (TV))
Lie Zhanying/Lin Chen (琅琊榜 | Nirvana in Fire (TV))
You can find more information about the pinch hit here.
The pinch hit is due on Friday 8 August at 11:59pm Eastern time.
Pinch hits must meet the minimum assignment requirements of a completed work of a minimum of 3,000 words for fanfiction, a minimum of 10 panels for a comic, or a recording of a completed fic of 3,000 words minimum with "casefic" as one of its tags. Works must include a fandom, character/ship and be of a medium that the recipient has requested.
The requested mediums and characters/relationships are as follows.
Mediums: Medium - Comic, Medium - Fanfic, Medium - Podfic
Relationships:
Lin Shu | Mei Changsu | Su Zhe/Xiao Jingyan (琅琊榜 | Nirvana in Fire (TV))
Lin Shu | Mei Changsu | Su Zhe & Mu Nihuang & Xiao Jingyan (琅琊榜 | Nirvana in Fire (TV))
Lie Zhanying/Xiao Jingyan (琅琊榜 | Nirvana in Fire (TV))
Lin Chen/Xiao Jingyan (琅琊榜 | Nirvana in Fire (TV))
Lie Zhanying & Xiao Jingyan (琅琊榜 | Nirvana in Fire (TV))
Lie Zhanying/Lin Chen (琅琊榜 | Nirvana in Fire (TV))
You can find more information about the pinch hit here.
New Vid: Peter Hale Fan Video - Bad Moon Rising
Jul. 26th, 2025 09:32 pmbrokenframe posting in viddingWeekly Chat
Jul. 26th, 2025 01:53 pmdancing_serpent posting in c_entThe weekly chat posts are intended for just that, chatting among each other. What are you currently watching? Reading? What actor/idol are you currently following? What are you looking forward to? Are you busy writing, creating art? Or did you have no time at all for anything, and are bemoaning that fact?
Whatever it is, talk to us about it here. Tell us what you liked or didn't like, and if you want to talk about spoilery things, please hide them under either of these codes:
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Whatever it is, talk to us about it here. Tell us what you liked or didn't like, and if you want to talk about spoilery things, please hide them under either of these codes:
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Two more wedding letters
Jul. 24th, 2025 03:14 pmconuly posting in agonyaunt1. Dear Care and Feeding,
I’m getting married next year, and my mom is helping me with a lot of the planning. She’s great at this stuff, and super excited to help (and I’m glad to have her—she’s one of my best friends!). But we’re worried about squabbling—or to be honest, yelling at each other—during the process. We’re VERY close, but prone to fighting about nonsense things. Any tips for avoiding a repeat of my (very loud) teenage years while we plan?
—My Fiancé is Very Calm, By the Way
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2. Dear Prudence,
I am an only child and my mother has always been … let’s call it “involved” with my life, and I have done my best to deal with it. Two years ago, I met my now-fiancée, “Arista,” and we are getting married in November. Last week, my mother came to me demanding that I call off our engagement. As it turns out, she had had a professional background check done on Arista, and she really did not like what she’d found.
After her little snoop-about, my mother discovered that she used to be in adult entertainment. The thing is, Arista was up front with me about this early on in our relationship and it doesn’t matter to me. However, I had intended to not say anything to my mother because I knew she would react like this, but more importantly, it wasn’t her business.
When I told my mom as much, she blew up and told me that I couldn’t sully our family by “marrying a whore.” I told her this wasn’t her decision and that she could either treat my future wife with the respect and decency she deserves or sit out the wedding. Now she’s told everyone in the family. Many are supportive and think she’s nuts, but some have shared her reaction. Is this grounds for removing her from my life for good?
—Pilloried By the Past
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I’m getting married next year, and my mom is helping me with a lot of the planning. She’s great at this stuff, and super excited to help (and I’m glad to have her—she’s one of my best friends!). But we’re worried about squabbling—or to be honest, yelling at each other—during the process. We’re VERY close, but prone to fighting about nonsense things. Any tips for avoiding a repeat of my (very loud) teenage years while we plan?
—My Fiancé is Very Calm, By the Way
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2. Dear Prudence,
I am an only child and my mother has always been … let’s call it “involved” with my life, and I have done my best to deal with it. Two years ago, I met my now-fiancée, “Arista,” and we are getting married in November. Last week, my mother came to me demanding that I call off our engagement. As it turns out, she had had a professional background check done on Arista, and she really did not like what she’d found.
After her little snoop-about, my mother discovered that she used to be in adult entertainment. The thing is, Arista was up front with me about this early on in our relationship and it doesn’t matter to me. However, I had intended to not say anything to my mother because I knew she would react like this, but more importantly, it wasn’t her business.
When I told my mom as much, she blew up and told me that I couldn’t sully our family by “marrying a whore.” I told her this wasn’t her decision and that she could either treat my future wife with the respect and decency she deserves or sit out the wedding. Now she’s told everyone in the family. Many are supportive and think she’s nuts, but some have shared her reaction. Is this grounds for removing her from my life for good?
—Pilloried By the Past
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Jul. 24th, 2025 03:06 pmconuly posting in agonyauntMy mother-in-law, “Hannah,” is a retired pediatrician, and self-appointed captain of our kids’ health care. Whenever we take our kids to the doctor, we have to have a post-visit debrief with Hannah, who demands every detail before offering her own (unsolicited) advice. Often, her advice contradicts the pediatrician’s recommendations, and she will get upset when we take the doctor’s side over hers.
My husband, “Tom,” says it’s better to humor her and pay lip-service to following her recommendations. I get that it’s his mom, but I’m the one fielding the questions! (Tom does what he can, but I’m usually the one taking them to the doctor and talking to her after.) I’m just sick and tired of dealing with this.
—Enough
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My husband, “Tom,” says it’s better to humor her and pay lip-service to following her recommendations. I get that it’s his mom, but I’m the one fielding the questions! (Tom does what he can, but I’m usually the one taking them to the doctor and talking to her after.) I’m just sick and tired of dealing with this.
—Enough
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Carolyn Hax: LW thinks fifth bride in family's wedding is not as big a deal
Jul. 24th, 2025 10:16 amfirebatvillain posting in agonyauntDear Carolyn: I have five children, two daughters. “Lynn” is 40, and “Emma” is 29. Lynn got married 15 years ago, and since she was the first bride of the younger generation, a big fuss was made over her wedding by me, my two sisters and especially my mother.
Emma is getting married next month, but since she is the fifth and last bride in our family, it’s not as big a deal. That’s the way it was in the previous generation, too, because this happened to my sister, the sixth bride that time around.
Complicating matters is the fact that Lynn is a stay-at-home mom of four whose husband recently left her for another woman. She is in a tailspin and requiring a lot of support. The whole family of women are pulling together for her, cooking, cleaning, taking turns sleeping at her house, etc. Except for my mom, we all have full-time jobs, which two of us didn’t have 15 years ago.
All that leaves us with little time or energy to focus on Emma’s wedding, which I thought she would understand. When she asked when we would all be making the usual desserts and decorations for the reception, no one felt they could commit.
Emma was hurt and pointed out what everyone did for Lynn, but we can’t even “do the minimum” for her. I was blindsided by her anger. I’m sorry we did more for her sister and cousins, but Lynn has the greater need right now.
I told Emma her father and I are paying for everything just like we did for her sister, and she could ask her friends to help.
Am I/are we being unfair to Emma?
— Blindsided
Emma is getting married next month, but since she is the fifth and last bride in our family, it’s not as big a deal. That’s the way it was in the previous generation, too, because this happened to my sister, the sixth bride that time around.
Complicating matters is the fact that Lynn is a stay-at-home mom of four whose husband recently left her for another woman. She is in a tailspin and requiring a lot of support. The whole family of women are pulling together for her, cooking, cleaning, taking turns sleeping at her house, etc. Except for my mom, we all have full-time jobs, which two of us didn’t have 15 years ago.
All that leaves us with little time or energy to focus on Emma’s wedding, which I thought she would understand. When she asked when we would all be making the usual desserts and decorations for the reception, no one felt they could commit.
Emma was hurt and pointed out what everyone did for Lynn, but we can’t even “do the minimum” for her. I was blindsided by her anger. I’m sorry we did more for her sister and cousins, but Lynn has the greater need right now.
I told Emma her father and I are paying for everything just like we did for her sister, and she could ask her friends to help.
Am I/are we being unfair to Emma?
— Blindsided
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Did You Make a Thing?
Jul. 23rd, 2025 02:59 pmdancing_serpent posting in c_entThis month is almost over, so, let's hear it. *g* How did it go with your fannish creativity?
Did you manage to make a thing?
Created fanart or made vids? Wrote fic or meta? How about picspams, link collections, character mood boards, themed playlists, promo posts, or whatever else you create for fannish enjoyment?
Here's the place to share it with us! Leave a link in the comments, or elaborate on it as much as you want.
Did you manage to make a thing?
Created fanart or made vids? Wrote fic or meta? How about picspams, link collections, character mood boards, themed playlists, promo posts, or whatever else you create for fannish enjoyment?
Here's the place to share it with us! Leave a link in the comments, or elaborate on it as much as you want.
voter registration shenanigans
Jul. 22nd, 2025 08:22 amgingicat posting in thisfinecrewThe three registered voters in our household each got a folded postcard from our local Board of Elections in a small Massachusetts city. On the outside, one side has the name and address; on the other side, it has a voter confirmation form. On the *inside*, there's the following:
"Dear Voter:
Our records show that you have not answered the annual street listing (census) as required by law (Massachusettes General Law Ch. 51 S. 4). Therefore, your name will be designated as "inactive" on the voting list.
If you have not moved or if you have moved to a new address in the City of Medford, please return the attached postage-paid postcard and you will be restored immediately to active voter status.
If you have moved to another City/Town or State, complete, sign and return the attached postage-paid postcard and your name will be removed from the voter list in Medford. You must register to vote in your new City/Town. You may use a mail-in form or online at www.registertovotema.com to register in Massachusetts .
If you do not return the attached postcard, your name will be removed from the voting list if you do not vote in at least one of the next two federal elections or take other action that would reinstate you as an active voter. (per M. G. L. Ch. 51 S. 37A)"
N.B. - I returned our city census and we have all voted in the last three elections.
So yeah, voter suppression exists even in this very blue state, and they're probably hoping people will ignore this reminder in a local elections year. Check your mail! And you can find out how to check your voter registration in another state at vote.org.
"Dear Voter:
Our records show that you have not answered the annual street listing (census) as required by law (Massachusettes General Law Ch. 51 S. 4). Therefore, your name will be designated as "inactive" on the voting list.
If you have not moved or if you have moved to a new address in the City of Medford, please return the attached postage-paid postcard and you will be restored immediately to active voter status.
If you have moved to another City/Town or State, complete, sign and return the attached postage-paid postcard and your name will be removed from the voter list in Medford. You must register to vote in your new City/Town. You may use a mail-in form or online at www.registertovotema.com to register in Massachusetts .
If you do not return the attached postcard, your name will be removed from the voting list if you do not vote in at least one of the next two federal elections or take other action that would reinstate you as an active voter. (per M. G. L. Ch. 51 S. 37A)"
N.B. - I returned our city census and we have all voted in the last three elections.
So yeah, voter suppression exists even in this very blue state, and they're probably hoping people will ignore this reminder in a local elections year. Check your mail! And you can find out how to check your voter registration in another state at vote.org.
Heroes (2022) fic: These Tides of Life
Jul. 21st, 2025 10:02 pmsilver_sun posting in c_entTitle: These Tides of Life
Writer:silver_sun
Fandom: Heroes (2022) /Shuo Ying Xiong Shei Shi Ying Xiong (说英雄谁是英雄)
Word count: 8184
Rating: General
Warnings/Spoilers: No Archive Warnings Apply/Spoilers for last few episodes of the series.
Relationships: Di Feijing & Lei Chun, Di Feijing & Qi Shaoshang
Characters: Di Feijing, Qi Shaoshang, Wang Xiaoshi (briefly), Lei Chun mentioned.
Additional Tags: Canon diverent AU, hurt/comfort,
Summary: Di Feijing hadn't expected to survive his fight with Fang Yingkan, but fate has other plans.
Here on AO3
Can I get a drama tag for Heroes (2022), please
Writer:
silver_sun Fandom: Heroes (2022) /Shuo Ying Xiong Shei Shi Ying Xiong (说英雄谁是英雄)
Word count: 8184
Rating: General
Warnings/Spoilers: No Archive Warnings Apply/Spoilers for last few episodes of the series.
Relationships: Di Feijing & Lei Chun, Di Feijing & Qi Shaoshang
Characters: Di Feijing, Qi Shaoshang, Wang Xiaoshi (briefly), Lei Chun mentioned.
Additional Tags: Canon diverent AU, hurt/comfort,
Summary: Di Feijing hadn't expected to survive his fight with Fang Yingkan, but fate has other plans.
Here on AO3
Can I get a drama tag for Heroes (2022), please
